Love and Friendship

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

This quote is very interesting because this could be a huge reason why so many people are unhappy in marriages and the divorce rate is so high. It seems as if our society sees divorce as not a big deal and just a daily occurrence, but why has divorce become so common I wonder? Yes divorce occurs for many reasons, but can’t it be prevented by not rushing into a relationship? Some people do get divorced for other reasons, not just because they rushed into it.

Many people rush into marriage and do not really get to know the other person, which is pretty common for celebrities. For instance, the Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries situation, everyone knows that they got married without really even knowing each other, but they still continued to get married and had their marriage broadcasted on television. I do not understand why there is such a rush for young people to get married when they have their whole life to settle down. When people are in a rush they do not see things clearly, like the idea that the person that they are going to marry is not the best person for them. Why would a person wish to marry someone, and then later realize that they love that person, but do not really want to be married to them, due to the fact that they do not know each other very well?

Personally, with love, I think that I would have to actually know a person and be friends with them before I could ever think about falling in love with them. For some people, this may be different though, maybe not everyone believes that friendship is needed for love. But who would want to marry a complete stranger who knows nothing about them and they know nothing about him/her? Many people seem to use the word love loosely, especially teens. Just because you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have been together for a few months does not mean that you guys are in love. Yes, I heard that falling in love is easy to do (I personally would not know due to the fact that I am only 16 and have never been in love), but shouldn’t it take more than just love to make the love last?

Dreams and Determination - Blog 3

“A dream doesn't become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work” are great words from Colin Powell. Everyone can dream, but it takes a truly determined and strong person to actually make their dream a reality.

I once heard a teacher tell a student “You always want things to be handed to you on a silver platter, without even doing any work. In life things are never handed to you without hard work, so get your act together.” This is kind of true, I have noticed that many teens do not want to work to achieve their dreams or goals, but they would just like it to magically happen or for someone to make it happen for them. It seems that so many people in our society have become lazy and do not know the true meaning of hard work. It seems like lately people are living by the “The Lazy Song” by Bruno Mars. Sometimes I wonder where our world is going to be in a few years because how can we advance as a society if no one wants to work and have determination? Without determination will our society ever survive?

Personally, I do not want things to be handed to me; I would rather earn things because it would give me a sense of satisfaction that I can do whatever I set my mind to. Its seems that the teens who live in Palmdale and want things to magically be handed to them, are still stuck in Palmdale not doing anything with themselves because they are still waiting for things to magically happen to them. These same people were the ones saying how much they can’t wait to leave Palmdale, but yet they are still here and still waiting. Apparently they will be waiting for forever because things do not just happen magically in life. I just do not understand people sometimes because their logic makes no sense at all at times. Life is not a dream world, it is reality.

Yeah reality can be a drag at times, but it can be fun if you want it to be. By fun I absolutely do not mean doing drugs, but to do things that you enjoy, like dance, paint, write poetry, go to a concert, or do something crazy like go indoor sky diving (which I may say is a blast, but can be dangerous). Maybe these people who chose not to work hard just see reality to be a drag and too much work, but life is only a drag if you make it a drag. You get as much out of life as you put in.

Friends

Friends always seem to come and go through out someone’s life, but it is the true friends that stick around. As Fr. Jerome Cummings said, “A friend is one who knows us, but loves us anyway.” It takes more than just knowing a person’s name and what city they grew up in, to know the real them. The friends that stick around long enough to know who you really, those are the true and best friends to have.

It takes a true friend to see past your faults and weird habits because no one is perfect. Finding a true friend shouldn’t be about finding a perfect friend, but a friend that is honest and we are able to laugh with. A true friend is able to look pasts someone’s habits, for instance my clumsiness. I am severely clumsy and it is fun to laugh at the funny and crazy things that happen to me and if a friend is able to laugh with me rather than laugh at me, then I would consider them to be a good friend. If a friend is able to deal with the weird things that you do, like eat mayonnaise with everything you eat or be obsessed over a certain celebrity, then they are good friends because some people may think that certain things that you do are weird and they wouldn’t want to socialize themselves with someone who does things like that. Someone may not want to be friend with someone just because they may snort a little when they laugh or they have a loud sneeze. The sad thing is that some people do pick their friends based on things like this, but they are destined to be forever alone because they are trying to find a perfect flawless friend, that does not even exist.

Good friends can be rare to come by because so many people put on masks to hide their real selves, and portray themselves differently, which may seem as if they are mean and fake person. Who in their right mind would want a friend who is fake and mean towards them? I doubt anyone would want that in a friend.

As I said before, friends do come and go. The people who stay around long enough to actually get to know the real you, they become great friends. Having someone who knows you and your personality just clicks with theirs is a very interesting thing because true friends can. I would rather have one person know me very well, rather than everyone know a little about me because with everyone knowing just a little about me allows me to not have any true friends; it would be like being surrounded by tons of people, but not having any friends and feeling lonely because no one really knows you.

Making Mistakes

Albert Einstein once said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” This is completely true about are society now, since our society was based off of mistakes. Mistakes are made in order to better improve things in our world.

Mistakes are a necessity to life, without mistakes, we would never learn anything. But taking a chance is needed in order to make a mistake. Nothing is wrong with taking a chance in order to try something new, even if people may thing that your idea is crazy or unrealistic, because unlike those who doubt you and are closed minded, you have an actual idea. For instance, everyone believed that Christopher Columbus was crazy for even thinking about trying a new route to get to India because back then everyone thought the world was flat and if you go too far you would fall off the Earth, but Columbus did not care what others thought he was determined and took a chance without knowing the consequences. This chance that he took not only allowed people to become aware of other people in the world, but it completely changed how others saw the world, people realized that the world was not flat but round. Taking a chance can lead to great things for not only yourself, but for other people and society. Instead of being enlightened about the world, we would be oblivious to everything in the world because no one would have the guts to come up with an idea to tell others about and take a chance.

Without mistakes who knows where our world would be now. There would be no IPods, cell phones, televisions, or durable buildings. There would be no technology what so ever in the world, which many people would find it horrendous to hear of such a world without any technology. We would know nothing about outer space, technology or about how large the world actually is. Without the trial and errors that were made in the past, we could still possibly be living in huts or caves, hunting for our food and striving to get through harsh weather conditions, struggling each and every day. This would not be a world that anyone would wish to live in.

Who wants to go through life doing the same thing each and every day and being too scared to come up with or voicing their ideas? Trying new things and learning from experiences, is what life is about. No one wants to be put into a box and only be allowed to think one way and never be creative. Mistakes are made every day, so no one should ever feel like they are the only person in the world who has made a mistake; I bet many people in the past has made the same mistakes that you have. The medicine penicillin, which is now widely used by doctors, was created by a mistake, but this mistake turned out to be a good one because it now helps millions of people when they are sick. Great ideas are based off of mistakes.